Last July, Gerald Rogers, motivational speaker and recently divorced, started on Facebook and admitted that there were many things he could have done differently to save his marriage.
The sincere advice that Rogers shared and posted on his public profile, had harvested, at last count, more than 3760 "likes" and more than 98800 "sharing". Meanwhile, a "re-share" by another Facebook user had grossed more than "68000" "Like".
The best of this open letter? The modest and realistic approach to Rogers when he gives his advice.
"Obviously I'm no expert in relationships," begins Rogers. "But the fact that my divorce was finalized this week shows me things I should have done differently ... After losing the woman I loved, and broke a marriage of nearly 16 years, here are the tips that I 'would like to hear ... "
Below, some of the lessons taught by Rogers. And do not pay attention to the pronouns - these are tips that both men and women couples need to hear.
1) DO NOT STOP HIM NEVER MAKE THE COURT. Never stop going out. Do NOT consider this woman for granted. When you married her, you are committed to be the man who holds his heart and would protect it at all costs. It is the largest and most sacred treasure that you have said. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget, and do not rest on your achievements when it comes to love.
2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. In the same way that you are committed to protecting the heart, you must protect yours with equal vigilance. Do you completely love the world frankly, but there is a place in your heart that must be reserved in your single woman. Keep this space always ready to receive it, ask in there, and deny anyone or anything else there is access.
3) Fall in love WITHOUT STOPPING. You will change constantly. You're not the same person you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same people as today. With the change, you will have to choose again each other. IT IS NOT OBLIGED TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you do not take care of her heart, she might give to someone else, or you will be excluded, and you may never succeed more to recover. Always keep fighting for her love, as you did when you courtisiez.